Ep. 576: What Ever You Avoid Eventually Owns You w/Jason Vallotton of BraveCo
Jason Vallotton is a pastor on staff at Bethel Church in Redding, California as well as a founder of BraveCo, a ministry dedicated to the healing and development of men as a means to healing and developing the world.
Jason joins Ned Schaut for a deeply honest conversation about masculinity, healing, discipleship, and the kind of fatherhood that changes generations.
This episode goes far beyond surface-level parenting advice. Jason shares openly about growing up with a father who created a home where confession was safe, truth mattered, and failure did not equal rejection. He talks candidly about struggling with pornography as a teenager, walking through divorce and betrayal, seasons of depression, and learning how to process pain instead of avoiding it.
At the center of the conversation is one powerful idea:
Most men are failing at the things they care about most because nobody showed them how to become men.
Jason and Ned unpack why men often pour themselves into work, business, hobbies, or achievement while quietly feeling lost in marriage and family life. Business has clear targets. Family often doesn’t. Most men were never discipled into emotional health, intentional fatherhood, or biblical masculinity.
The conversation explores:
- why men need mentors and spiritual fathers, * how unresolved pain becomes bondage,
- why vulnerability and strength are not opposites,
- how fathers shape a child’s understanding of God,
- and why no young man should have to stumble blindly into manhood.
One of the standout moments comes when Jason describes his father in a way that we all strive to have our kids say about us:
“My dad’s not perfect. He’s just the best man that I know.”
This episode is for fathers, husbands, leaders and men who are tired of isolation, tired of pretending, and ready to intentionally become the kind of man their family can depend on.
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