Episode 537

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24th Oct 2025

Ep 537: Stop Telling Our Young Men to 'Go Get It Out of Your System'

In this episode, Ned challenges the destructive cultural narrative that young men need to "get it out of their system" in their twenties, sharing insights from a recent father-son gathering and introducing Adam Lane Smith's transformative framework for masculine leadership based on four areas of safety that men must provide: resource safety, protection, emotional safety, and bonding safety. This episode is essential listening for any father who wants to shape his sons into men of character and teach his daughters what to look for in a partner.

(00:00:00) - Father-Son Night

(00:02:00) - Challenging "Get It Out of Your System" Mentality

(00:03:00) - Working It INTO Your System vs. OUT of Your System

(00:05:00) - The Abundance Mindset vs. Hoarding

(00:07:00) - Four Areas of Safety Men Must Provide

(00:08:00) - Resource Safety and Protection

(00:08:00) - Emotional Safety and Bonding Safety

(00:09:00) - Teaching These Principles to Family

(00:10:00) - Earning the Right to Speak Into Your Children's Lives

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Fatherhood Field Notes is where we hear real stories from real men living real lives every week. Fatherhood is not only about being a dad, it incorporates providing and serving a home, loving and serving a spouse, engaging and serving in a community, as well as intentionally serving your children. Fatherhood is an adventure, one full of fun, wild, and messy stories. In this podcast, we will hear stories from real men who have found themselves living the Adventure of Fatherhood. The Craft of Fatherhood episodes are 5-10 minute episodes where your guide Ned Schaut shares stories on his own fatherhood journey.

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